There comes a time, I believe everyone gets to, where decisions about how you will live your life must be made. Who are you? Who do you want to be? What do you live for? What do you believe? How far do you believe it? What do you want from life? Are you willing to settle?
All of these questions will be answered, though mostly subconsciously, but will be evidenced in daily life. For children, they are who their parents say they are. As we grow older, we have the opportunity to decide for ourselves if we want to continue living life as set up for us by our parents, or if we want to make changes. Our parents might raise us in a Christian home, but ultimately whether we decide to fully adopt that faith and make it our own, is up to us as individuals. It is true; however, that, for the most part, our parents have the greatest effect on our lives. When we are faced with a trial, we go to them and ask for guidance. It is then up to us to take that guidance or leave it. Granted, a lot of times the guidance is given even when we don’t ask. But still it isn’t our parents who are leading our lives, unless we give them that power. In that case, we never become the full potential of who we are meant to be.
In other cases, teachers, pastors, and mentors are also intricately involved in our lives. And they also have ideas of what our lives should look like: what we should do, who we should be, how we should utilize the knowledge we have obtained. But even here, it is up to the individual to take the advise or not. It’s not wrong or right to take it or leave it, it’s a matter of preference. All of the advise that is given should be taken into consideration and weighed. This is where religion comes into play. I try not to use the word ‘religion’, but here it fits universally.
Advise, concerns, and guidance should always be taken and compared to what Scripture says. But even beyond what Scripture says, we have the Holy Spirit to guide us through distinguishing between the trash and the truth.
But here’s what’s difficult: when someone comes to you and says, ‘In order for you to succeed, you must do X, Y, and Z.’ You might think to yourself a number of things when someone says this, some might think, ‘Who do you think you are, talking to me like you know my life?’ or maybe, ‘If I don’t do what you say, I feel like I could really be messing up, though I’m not sure you’re completely right.’ So do you ignore what they say, or do you follow them blindly, not really making up your own mind, but following them under the pretenses that they know what is best for you? Now, clearly the answer is on a case-by-case basis and sometimes you have to make the decision to follow blindly, but at least you know that you chose to do that.
But the point is that even if the person gives you an outlandish opinion about what to do with your life, you should at least think it over match it to what the Bible says and pray about it. We can not afford to just live life based on the now, and how I am today or what I feel right now to be true. A lady told me once that feelings are not facts, it took me a while to get it, but it’s true; so we probably shouldn’t let feelings lead us – being as that they change quite rapidly given life circumstances. (though I tend to fall here often) We have to take the time to review the questions, and always remember the goal. And that is to please and glorify the Lord. But we have to do it as the person He created us to be. If He created me to be one thing and i become another, then how can I fulfill what He has for me?
So whose leading your life?